The concluding dialogue of Luck By Chance was "Everyone choses success or failure, happiness or sadness". This made me think for hours. Did I chose my present state of mind? May be yes.
My life 2 yrs ago and my life now...what a hell lot of a difference!! And the reason for this difference is a few wrong decisions, a few wrong choices and an unclear state of mind.And all this is still continuing.
2 yrs ago, whenever I asked my heart and mind what I wanted in life, I always got an answer. Now when I ask my heart and mind, there never comes a clear answer. And immediately after taking a decision, there's a lull, my heart beat increases and my mind is flooded with questions like will it be right...what if this does not materialize...what if the other option was a better one...what if i m a loser at the end...instead of choosing from options I get trapped in them and lose my peace of mind...and thus day by day my life is becoming a mess.
With each passing day, I am forced to make more decisions and with each decision comes more of doubts and more of uncertainty and more of unhappiness. Earlier I used to believe that even if I have not chosen the best, I can make my choice to be the best for me. Now this seems to me a distant dream. And all these decisions have accumulated so much of sadness in me that the burden is killing me day by day. I want to throw out all sadness from within but am unable to find a way out.
But to avoid the same mistakes in future I should know my mistakes. The biggest mistakes of my life are :
Trying to make all my close ones happy - None of our actions can make all happy so it's worthless trying to make all happy. In the end of it, it's you who are most unhappy and dissatisfied.
Not being firm on what I want - Since childhood I had never been one of those kids who will do all possible tantrums to get a thing. I used to try for it once or twice and then be at peace with whatever I have. But now I realize, we have to be adamant if we really want something. Else the world will try to crush your dreams.
Being too accommodative about everything - I used to be satisfied with whatever I have if it makes someone else happy. But over a period of time, it just accumulates into sadness and hopelessness. Now I would fight with full enthusiasm to get what I want and would not be contended by anything less than that.
Believing that there's always a middle way - If you want something, then you have to decide on it and tread on that path come what may. If you try to find some middle way which would not involve too many radical reactions, then you are only fooling yourself. This is what I was trying to do all these times in my personal as well as professional life. Now I would not look for middle ways, it's either this way or that way.
It seems couple of my mistakes have already slipped out of my mind. Will continue to update this list as and when things happen and would try to make maximum out of it.
Tuesday, February 10, 2009
Wednesday, December 31, 2008
Happy New Year !!
Every new year people make resolutions to change aspects of themselves they believe are negative. A majority of people revert back to how they were before and feel like failures. A better resolution would be to make at least one person happy every day, and then in ten years you may have made three thousand, six hundred and fifty persons happy, or brightened a small town by your contribution to the fund of general enjoyment.
With this resolution in mind, I start this year and wish you all a very safe, happy and peaceful new year!!
With this resolution in mind, I start this year and wish you all a very safe, happy and peaceful new year!!
Monday, December 15, 2008
RNBDJ
Finally we got the tickets for the much hyped movie. SRK and Aditya Chopra combination after 8 years...SRK's movie after one year...etc had become the cliche' topics of discussion for the month.
'Rab Ne Bana Di Jodi' was supposed to break the "Raj" mania which had gripped the industry after DDLJ. If we consider this as the sole aim of the movie, then I would say the movie was par excellence. It did not just break the "Raj" mania but it made people loathe Raj and like Suri.Though the second half was a bit repetitive and lacked originality (as most of the sequences and dialogues were from old YRF) , Suri was good enough to keep you glued to the screen for 2 hrs and 45 mins.
Another thing which this movie boasts of is its relevance in real life. The movie was supposed to show what happens with most of us. How many of us would agree that we wont recognize our spouse if he/she changes hair style and dresses..? Not many I guess. But still the movie is said to be very close to real life. It is true that outer appearance does not matter but is it acceptable that even communication does not matter much? Each one of us loves some person very dearly and all of us want to be loved. I am sure almost all of you will agree that expression of this love also matters equally. But Suri believes the other way round. As per him, his wife should understand his love even without him saying anything. That is only possible if there's a very good understanding between them and this is only possible if he communicates this to her.
And even in real life, all of us do want some excitement and colors in life. We cannot live with a strict routine life, dressing exactly the same way everyday, speaking to others only for some work and that too timidly, talking in a few words which do not even qualify as a full sentence, not taking our eyes off the plates even once while having dinner (that too when your spouse is having dinner with you)!!! All such Suris in real life have to change at some point of the time or other and if they don't then, their only companions at the end are their monotonous daily tasks.
The end of the movie shows Suri changing to a more colorful person, a more outgoing person and a more expressive person. The last 5 mins (star cast part) is undoubtedly the best and most enjoyable part of the movie!!!
'Rab Ne Bana Di Jodi' was supposed to break the "Raj" mania which had gripped the industry after DDLJ. If we consider this as the sole aim of the movie, then I would say the movie was par excellence. It did not just break the "Raj" mania but it made people loathe Raj and like Suri.Though the second half was a bit repetitive and lacked originality (as most of the sequences and dialogues were from old YRF) , Suri was good enough to keep you glued to the screen for 2 hrs and 45 mins.
Another thing which this movie boasts of is its relevance in real life. The movie was supposed to show what happens with most of us. How many of us would agree that we wont recognize our spouse if he/she changes hair style and dresses..? Not many I guess. But still the movie is said to be very close to real life. It is true that outer appearance does not matter but is it acceptable that even communication does not matter much? Each one of us loves some person very dearly and all of us want to be loved. I am sure almost all of you will agree that expression of this love also matters equally. But Suri believes the other way round. As per him, his wife should understand his love even without him saying anything. That is only possible if there's a very good understanding between them and this is only possible if he communicates this to her.
And even in real life, all of us do want some excitement and colors in life. We cannot live with a strict routine life, dressing exactly the same way everyday, speaking to others only for some work and that too timidly, talking in a few words which do not even qualify as a full sentence, not taking our eyes off the plates even once while having dinner (that too when your spouse is having dinner with you)!!! All such Suris in real life have to change at some point of the time or other and if they don't then, their only companions at the end are their monotonous daily tasks.
The end of the movie shows Suri changing to a more colorful person, a more outgoing person and a more expressive person. The last 5 mins (star cast part) is undoubtedly the best and most enjoyable part of the movie!!!
Wednesday, December 3, 2008
Jag Suna Suna Thera Thera Sa..
Mera Sapna Apna Ghera Ghera Sa..
Sare Sehar Ki Jagmag Ke Bitar Hai Andhera
Har Muskan Ke Peeche Chupa Hua Gum Ka Chehra
Yehi Hai Sach To Harpal Ko Jee Lu Mein Jee Bhar Ke
Aur Has Has Ke Yeh Keh Dun Dukho Ke Pathar Se…..
Alvida…… Alvida……
Koi Waqt Ke Aage Hara Hara Sa..
Koi Pyaar Mein Firta Mara Mara Sa..
Dil Ke Riston Mein Kyon Dard Hamesha Milta Hai
Aur Kyon Kaanton Per Hi Phool Sukho Ka Khilta Hai
Yehi Hai Sach To Mein Iss Sach Ko Hi Apnaunga
Mar Bhi Jaunga To Mein Pyaar Amar Kar Jaunga……
Mera Sapna Apna Ghera Ghera Sa..
Sare Sehar Ki Jagmag Ke Bitar Hai Andhera
Har Muskan Ke Peeche Chupa Hua Gum Ka Chehra
Yehi Hai Sach To Harpal Ko Jee Lu Mein Jee Bhar Ke
Aur Has Has Ke Yeh Keh Dun Dukho Ke Pathar Se…..
Alvida…… Alvida……
Koi Waqt Ke Aage Hara Hara Sa..
Koi Pyaar Mein Firta Mara Mara Sa..
Dil Ke Riston Mein Kyon Dard Hamesha Milta Hai
Aur Kyon Kaanton Per Hi Phool Sukho Ka Khilta Hai
Yehi Hai Sach To Mein Iss Sach Ko Hi Apnaunga
Mar Bhi Jaunga To Mein Pyaar Amar Kar Jaunga……
Tuesday, November 25, 2008
What a way to start your day
Not everyone's day starts with bed-tea and newspaper, but I am sure almost everyone's working hours start with http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com or http://www.rediff.com/ and a cup of coffee. The way your day starts is known to have a great influence on your thoughts day long and are also reflected in your actions. But alas! The media seems to be ignorant of this fact.
The moment you pick up any newspaper (or even news channels), your eyebrows are raised and three dark lines appear from no where on your forehead.Be it the headlines, the latest news or the most read section,all you get to read is some accident happening somewhere, some girl being raped somewhere, some robbery, some murder,some suicide, some scams or divorce cases and relationship woes. And these thoughts remain in our minds (conscious or sub conscious) and add to the irritations and frustrations in our already stressed lives.
It is not that only these things are happening around us. Good and motivating things also happens with the same frequency. Every other second some person helps someone, someone achieves something(may be small or big), someone fights his/her problems courageously and becomes a source of inspiration for others.But these stories hardly find any place in the news and even if they are successful, it's some where in 20-22 page of the newspaper.
I am not saying that we should totally be unaware of what is going around us. My only point is we could start with something positive. This would not only increase our efficiency but also better our mood.
The day our newspapers have only positive and motivational articles in the first page, our productivity and satisfaction is bound to increase. Japan is already reaping the fruits of this concept. It's our turn now!!
The moment you pick up any newspaper (or even news channels), your eyebrows are raised and three dark lines appear from no where on your forehead.Be it the headlines, the latest news or the most read section,all you get to read is some accident happening somewhere, some girl being raped somewhere, some robbery, some murder,some suicide, some scams or divorce cases and relationship woes. And these thoughts remain in our minds (conscious or sub conscious) and add to the irritations and frustrations in our already stressed lives.
It is not that only these things are happening around us. Good and motivating things also happens with the same frequency. Every other second some person helps someone, someone achieves something(may be small or big), someone fights his/her problems courageously and becomes a source of inspiration for others.But these stories hardly find any place in the news and even if they are successful, it's some where in 20-22 page of the newspaper.
I am not saying that we should totally be unaware of what is going around us. My only point is we could start with something positive. This would not only increase our efficiency but also better our mood.
The day our newspapers have only positive and motivational articles in the first page, our productivity and satisfaction is bound to increase. Japan is already reaping the fruits of this concept. It's our turn now!!
Monday, November 24, 2008
Movie Mania !!
Blogging after quite a long time. May be because something unusual happened after a long time. And all of this because of our great Bollywood..!! Three of my last six meals were popcorn and coke!! I saw four movies in the last two days.
After postponing it for long, I finally got a chance to see the much hyped movie 'Fashion', which reiterates what many of us forget while pursuing our dreams. The end of wisdom is to dream high enough to lose the dream in the seeking of it. All of us at some point or the other miss to enjoy the success we had dreamt of for years and lose our personality which helped us taste success.After achieving what the protagonist had always dreamt of, she feels somewhere there's a void. With full confidence, she had started her journey to success, made very good friends en route, tasted the success which she was chasing but somehow got trapped in it. She was unable to find her true self, her character was lost in the crowd of people. She realizes that one cannot be happy in spite of all the money and material comforts till one is at peace with one self.
Dasvidaniya was a very simple, sensitive movie which does not boast of good star cast, exotic locales etc but it definitely has awesome performances, soothing music and very apt lyrics. It makes you think how simple a person can be and how all of us are too busy with our daily chores to enjoy and appreciate the beauty of life. There's a scene where Vinay stands in his balcony and says
" I had bought this house because the view from here is very scenic and soothing. But since the first day, I have only come in this balcony to dry my towel and the only thing I could see from here were the stains of my towel."
In this race of time and money, all of us miss the small pleasures of life for which we had started working.
A R Rehman remains the 'Yuvvraaj' of music world. His music is just awesome in that movie. Though the movie did not have anything worth watching except locales, it was a treat for the ears!! And the only thing which one says after the movie ends is "Rehman, Tu hi to humara dost hai..!!"
And the worst of the lot was Dostana. For the directors and producers we just have these words "Inka ka Ladla Bigad Gaya!!"
After postponing it for long, I finally got a chance to see the much hyped movie 'Fashion', which reiterates what many of us forget while pursuing our dreams. The end of wisdom is to dream high enough to lose the dream in the seeking of it. All of us at some point or the other miss to enjoy the success we had dreamt of for years and lose our personality which helped us taste success.After achieving what the protagonist had always dreamt of, she feels somewhere there's a void. With full confidence, she had started her journey to success, made very good friends en route, tasted the success which she was chasing but somehow got trapped in it. She was unable to find her true self, her character was lost in the crowd of people. She realizes that one cannot be happy in spite of all the money and material comforts till one is at peace with one self.
Dasvidaniya was a very simple, sensitive movie which does not boast of good star cast, exotic locales etc but it definitely has awesome performances, soothing music and very apt lyrics. It makes you think how simple a person can be and how all of us are too busy with our daily chores to enjoy and appreciate the beauty of life. There's a scene where Vinay stands in his balcony and says
" I had bought this house because the view from here is very scenic and soothing. But since the first day, I have only come in this balcony to dry my towel and the only thing I could see from here were the stains of my towel."
In this race of time and money, all of us miss the small pleasures of life for which we had started working.
A R Rehman remains the 'Yuvvraaj' of music world. His music is just awesome in that movie. Though the movie did not have anything worth watching except locales, it was a treat for the ears!! And the only thing which one says after the movie ends is "Rehman, Tu hi to humara dost hai..!!"
And the worst of the lot was Dostana. For the directors and producers we just have these words "Inka ka Ladla Bigad Gaya!!"
Friday, August 15, 2008
Happy Independence Day
Since last month, each day I had been waiting for 15th Aug and I am sure almost all of you would have been doing the same. The reason for such a wait is quite obvious and no points for guessing it. ‘Independence Day’ is one of the most awaited days every year as it breaks the no-holiday season of may-jun-jul. And nothing can be better than 15th Aug falling on a Friday. So this day gets its share of recognition but for reasons which are different from what our forefathers had in their mind while declaring it has a national holiday. Anyway, like a ‘true’ Indian, my plans for this day included getting up late, brunch, calling friends and family and wishing them a very happy independence day or rather a happy holiday..!!! Then a not so short siesta, followed by some chatting, playing some deshbhakti geet in the background, dinner and back to the land of dreams. Wow what a day..!!!
But as my luck would have it, when I got up today, it was just 6 AM. Wished myself a happy holiday (though the start was not so happy) and then called up my friends to wish them a happy holiday (why should only I get up early). And the first thing I get to hear on our Independence Day is “Hey…tell me the lyrics of our national anthem. I have to go for a flag hoisting ceremony!!” I couldn’t believe that I was actually hearing these words. My obvious reply was “How is this possible? How can anyone forget the national anthem? It should be in the blood of all Indians. You must be kidding.” That friend of mine actually didn’t know the national anthem and was getting late so without further arguments I recited the national anthem.
Feeling proud of myself, I thought “At the stroke of this hour, when all Indians are sleeping, I have awakened to life and freedom. A moment comes, which comes but rarely, when I step out of my bed at 6 on a holiday, and when the soul of the nation, long suppressed, finds utterance. It is fitting that at this solemn moment I recite the national anthem and take the pledge of dedication to the service of India and her people and to the still larger cause of humanity.”
With this pride, I switched on my laptop, logged in gtalk, changed my status message to ‘Vande Mataram’, played some deshbhakti geet in background and at the end of the day did nothing other than criticizing government, its policies, growing terrorism, people’s indifference towards the country and its independence and updating my blog.AAKHIR DIL HAI HINDUSTANI!!!
But as my luck would have it, when I got up today, it was just 6 AM. Wished myself a happy holiday (though the start was not so happy) and then called up my friends to wish them a happy holiday (why should only I get up early). And the first thing I get to hear on our Independence Day is “Hey…tell me the lyrics of our national anthem. I have to go for a flag hoisting ceremony!!” I couldn’t believe that I was actually hearing these words. My obvious reply was “How is this possible? How can anyone forget the national anthem? It should be in the blood of all Indians. You must be kidding.” That friend of mine actually didn’t know the national anthem and was getting late so without further arguments I recited the national anthem.
Feeling proud of myself, I thought “At the stroke of this hour, when all Indians are sleeping, I have awakened to life and freedom. A moment comes, which comes but rarely, when I step out of my bed at 6 on a holiday, and when the soul of the nation, long suppressed, finds utterance. It is fitting that at this solemn moment I recite the national anthem and take the pledge of dedication to the service of India and her people and to the still larger cause of humanity.”
With this pride, I switched on my laptop, logged in gtalk, changed my status message to ‘Vande Mataram’, played some deshbhakti geet in background and at the end of the day did nothing other than criticizing government, its policies, growing terrorism, people’s indifference towards the country and its independence and updating my blog.AAKHIR DIL HAI HINDUSTANI!!!
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